The moment you see each other on your elopement day—should it be during the ceremony, or should you have a private first look? The decision is yours, but if you’re wondering whether a bride and groom first look is the right choice, let’s break it down.
What Is a Bride and Groom First Look?
A bride and groom first look is a private moment before the ceremony where you see each other for the first time. Instead of waiting until the walk down the aisle, you get to soak in the moment together—just the two of you.
For some couples, this is an intimate, emotional experience that calms their nerves before the ceremony. For others, they love the anticipation of waiting for that moment at the altar. So, which one is right for you?
The Pros of a First Look
1. A Private, Emotional Moment
One of the biggest reasons couples choose a bride and groom first look is to have a moment that’s just for them. During a traditional ceremony, all eyes are on you. But with a first look, you get to react freely, talk to each other, hug, and even shed a few happy tears—without an audience.
2. More Time for Photos (and Less Stress)
Elopements are all about a stress-free, go-with-the-flow experience. A first look means you can take some portraits beforehand, so you’re not rushing to fit everything in after the ceremony. Plus, if you’re eloping at sunset (which, let’s be honest, is the best time for dreamy photos), this gives you more time to explore different locations.
3. It Eases Wedding-Day Nerves
Feeling a little anxious? Totally normal. A first look can calm those nerves instantly because you’re with your person. Instead of waiting until the ceremony, you get to connect, breathe, and be in the moment together.
The Reasons to Skip a First Look
1. You Love the Aisle Moment
For some couples, nothing beats the classic aisle reveal. If you’ve always imagined locking eyes as you walk toward each other, you might want to save that moment for the ceremony.
2. You Want a Traditional Feel
Even for elopements, some couples want to keep certain traditions alive. If you love the idea of waiting until the ceremony for the big reveal, then stick with it!
3. It Doesn’t Fit Your Timeline
Sometimes, a first look just doesn’t work logistically—especially for sunrise elopements or timelines that are already packed. And that’s okay! Your day should flow in a way that feels natural and relaxed.
So, Should You Have a Bride and Groom First Look?
At the end of the day, the choice is yours! If you want a private, emotional moment together, a bride and groom first look is a beautiful way to start your elopement day. But if you love the anticipation of seeing each other at the ceremony, that’s just as special.
No matter what you choose, I’ll be there to capture the emotions, the excitement, and the magic of the moment—first look or not.
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Elopement Resources
How to Elope in Lake Tahoe
Lake Tahoe Elopement Guide
Elopement Planning Checklist
Elopements – What Shots to Expect from Me
First Look from Brides.com
