What states allow self-solemnization? Self-solemnization (sometimes called a self-uniting marriage) means you can legally marry yourselves without an officiant. No pastor, no judge, no stranger standing between you — just the two of you signing the paperwork and calling it official.
For couples eloping, this is huge. It means more privacy, more flexibility, and fewer logistics to worry about.
Here’s the full breakdown 👇
States That Allow Self-Solemnization (No Officiant Required)
These states legally allow couples to marry without an officiant.
States with True Self-Solemnization
- Colorado
One of the most popular elopement states for this reason. No officiant and no witnesses required. - Pennsylvania
Requires a self-uniting marriage license. Witness requirements may apply depending on the county. - Wisconsin
Allows self-solemnization with witnesses present. - Illinois
Permits self-solemnization for religious or personal reasons. - Montana
Only allowed if one partner is a Montana resident.
States That Allow Self-Uniting for Religious Reasons
Some states technically require a reason tied to religious belief, but do not require proof.
- California
You’ll need a Confidential Marriage License. No officiant required — just the two of you. - Nevada
Allows self-solemnization under specific religious circumstances. - Kansas
Permitted for religious reasons, no officiant required. - Maine
Allows self-solemnization under religious belief exemptions.
States That Require an Officiant
Most states still require an officiant to legally perform the ceremony. That said — this doesn’t have to feel formal or awkward.
✨ Many elopement couples choose:
- A close friend or family member getting ordained
- Or a photographer-officiant combo (👋 hi, that’s us)
Why Couples Love Self-Solemnizing When Eloping
- Total privacy — no extra people
- More intimate and personal
- Easier logistics for adventure elopements
- Perfect for “just us” ceremonies
- No awkward stranger energy during your vows
It’s especially popular for mountain elopements, sunrise ceremonies, and quiet national park days where keeping things simple matters.
Important Things to Know Before You Decide
- Laws vary by state and sometimes by county
- Marriage licenses must still be filed properly
- Witness requirements can differ
- Confidential vs public licenses matter (especially in California)
This is where having someone guide you through it makes everything way less stressful.
Thinking About Self-Solemnizing Your Elopement?
If you’re dreaming of a laid-back, intimate elopement — especially in California, Lake Tahoe, or Yosemite — I help couples figure out exactly what’s legal, what’s required, and what will make the day feel the most like you.
👉 Reach out here to start planning your elopement day (and skip the unnecessary stress).
Ready to Create Your Own Epic Elopement?
If you’re dreaming of an epic intimate wedding without the chaos of a traditional wedding — I’d love to help you plan a day that actually feels good.
👉 Reach out through my contact form to start planning and let’s create something intentional, relaxed, and unforgettable.
I’ll make sure your day feels like you.
Hey I’m Kristin!
I’m a California elopement photographer and planner who knows all the best locations to elope in. I will help you with location scouting, planning, navigating permits, timeline creation, what to do, and of course, epic photography!
Ready to make the most of your wedding day?
Let’s plan something unforgettable!
Helpful Elopement Resources
Why Couples Are Eloping: A More Intentional Way to Get Married
Mountain Elopement | Epic California Mountain Wedding Inspiration
Eloping Then Having a Wedding: How to Do Both and Love Every Minute
Elopement Dress: How to Pick the Perfect One
Elopement Packages All Inclusive
Elopement Planning Checklist
How to Include Your Dog in Your Elopement
Elopements – What Shots to Expect from Me
How to Elope in Lake Tahoe
How to Get Married in Yosemite: Permit Guide
